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The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga, framework 6 of 6
Living energeially
Aristotle's distinction used to treat life as a series of moments lived like a dance, not a climb to a summit.
Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga's framework, from The Courage To Be Disliked, pp. 198 to 255.
- Drop the line
See life as a series of dots, each lived now, instead of a line to a destination.
- Shine the spotlight on the present
Do what you can do today, earnestly and conscientiously, without staring at the past or the future.
- Treat the process as the outcome
Make the dance or the journey itself the goal, as opposed to speed to an end point.
- Keep a guiding star
Steer by 'I contribute to others' when the way is unclear, and ignore whether you are disliked.
From chapter: THE FIFTH NIGHT: TO LIVE IN EARNEST IN THE HERE AND NOW, pp. 198–255
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Framework 4 · Founder mindset The encouragement approach Adler's alternative to praise and rebuke, built on horizontal relationships and aimed at restoring a person's courage to face their own tasks.
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Framework 5 · Leadership Self-acceptance, confidence in others, contribution to others The three linked keys to moving from attachment to self to concern for others and reaching community feeling.